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First of all, why do we compare ourselves to others anyway?
According to LCSW’s psychotherapist, Erika Ames, “Humans are naturally creatures of comparison, but girls and women are especially vulnerable”.
For the most part in parenting, we always compare ourselves to other parents because we want to do what’s best for our kids. But if you’re also living with a mental health condition, these thoughts might be even more frequent or cruel. So the question is, how can we reduce such comparisons?
1. Temper your triggers
Social media plays a huge role here. We know that most of the content we see on social media platforms are fabricated and highly curated, however, that doesn’t stop us from feeling awful when we see a mom hiking with her three kids or taking them for an elaborate picnic — while our kids are glued to their phones, snacking on leftovers.
Therefore, limit how often you scroll on social media!
According to Psychotherapist Sharon Yu, LMFT, uninstalling social media apps from your phone can really help you avoid feeling bad and reduce such comparisons.
2. Create mind-shifting mantras
People often underestimate the power of mantras, according to therapist Laura Glenney, MSc.
“When you start to compare yourself, repeat a mantra that resonates with you, such as ‘I am enough.’ or ‘Honour my way.’”
3. Be extra kind to yourself
Self-compassion goes a long way.
When you are experiencing a bad day, don’t be so hard on yourself! Always say ‘That’s OKAY!’ even if you’re doing the bare minimum.
Being a parent is already the toughest job out there, cut yourself some slack!
4. Harness your strengths
Michelle Pargman, EdS, LMHC, suggests that you should regularly ask yourself these questions:
“Who and what can I engage with today, in order to support and reinforce the unique strengths that I bring as a parent and a person?”
Believing in yourself is one of the most important step to stop comparing yourself!
A good parent doesn’t have to be perfect. No one is perfect. No child is perfect either… keeping this in mind is important when we set our expectations!
Info Via Healthline